Good Girl Rules

Deep evening, a dark room, a crib behind the back, a computer in front of you. In the computer – the Internet and the interlocutor. He’s supposed to look like Kurt Cobain or a math tutor … You can’t see your face or other parts of your body, you don’t hear a voice, you don’t smell. You have only the words that he writes to you and which you knock in response. If among these words the most frequently repeated words are “hands”, “lips”, “skin”, “neck”, “tongue” and the verbs “touch”, “enter” (further down the list) – this is virtual sex.

Where is it?

This is done in chats, of which, as expected, there are many. Good and different. If you have a computer and an Internet connection, but no bells and whistles, you can do it in web chat. You can get into it through a regular Netscape or explorer. If you somehow started an IRC or ICQ program, you have access to IRC and ICQ chats, respectively.

If we compare them with real-life, then web chats resemble a noisy and stupid party in a half-familiar apartment, where you can retire with a cupcake only in a combined bathroom, and then risk the fact that those who want to pee through the kitchen window will spy on you. Irk chats are like a pioneer camp, or a student dormitory, or a campsite, where basically everyone hides in their closets and only occasionally meets the others in the dining room or the television hall. “Askin” chats can be compared to an intimate date in a friend’s apartment when there is no one but you, but you do not know what to expect: either the leg by the bed will break, or the grandmother will come to visit her granddaughter.

All chats are general and thematic. The latter are sometimes devoted to love, flirting, and sex. And from all of the above, only “flirting” is normally obtained in them, during which tongue-tied lads from Donetsk or Perm yell: “I’m a superstar !!!” or “I want you !!!”. And you answer monotonously: “Oh, is it?”. It makes no sense to look for virtual sex in such chats. Here is the most inhibited audience, who came here precisely for “this” and that is why they are terribly shocked. Everyone is constantly snarling and waiting for their rude seduction. Do not try to do this, but rather go to general chats.

How is it?

Well, first of all, forget what your grandmother taught you. Modesty does not suit virtual girls on the path of love. With inappropriate pretense, you will only scare off all possible partners.

Secondly, when your virtual cupcake begins to busily lay electronic sheets, you will have to make an effort on yourself and give him some food for thought. Eye color, hair length, lip, and ear shape are still flowers. It is likely that he will ask you to tell him about your underwear, breast shape, and erogenous zones. He doesn’t want to get into a mess and start taking off your jeans, which you don’t even have insight into. Answering, you can lie. Just do not sketch your portrait with Kim Basinger from “9 1/2 Weeks” and other erotic stencils – they have all been learned by heart long ago, and even the most zealous virtual enthusiast will only cause a yawn with a subsequent disconnect. By the way, it is not at all scary, to tell the truth, but, naturally, not all, but the best part of it.

Third, make it so that he speaks mostly. After all, you want to, first of all, see how it looks, and not sit in a puddle. Sometimes answer something. If you are deafly silent, he will think that your computer is frozen. Before putting on the air another passionate scream, carefully read what he has already written: if you tell him that you are putting your hands on his shoulders, while, according to his version, he crept up behind you and unbuttons your blouse, it will be embarrassing. It is best, after two or three of his maxims, to knock on some encouraging and affectionate epithet (“What are your strong hands!”, “I really like it!”) Or express wishes (if you have the courage).

And finally, “immediately after” there is no need to pester a person with vigorous inquisitive questions such as: “Did you really feel all this?” All the same, most likely he will lie to you.

Who is this?

Who really was there, on the other end of the line, you will only know if you decide to meet live. But you may not want this: firstly, it is not always necessary to mix the secret and the obvious, and secondly, real meetings of virtuals most often turn into mutual disappointment. He may not want this either – if he is not who he pretended to be. For example, he is actually forty instead of twenty. Or he is impotent. He may even be of the same gender as you. However, contrary to common prejudices, this is extremely rare. All people with a liking for free sex on the Internet are especially persistent in proclaiming their addictions.

Some of the features of your virtual lover are clear in advance. He should not be familiar with the question from books. He should have a good hanging tongue, that is, hands. And he must be brave enough to call some things by their proper names. Now look at your peers and decide: is a sixteen- or eighteen-year-old cupcake able to describe his desires and intentions in more detail than in one phrase, in which two out of three words are “me” and “you”?

The one behind the monitor is probably older than you, more experienced, and smarter. If you are lucky, you will stumble upon an artist who has virtual sex for the love of virtual sex. If you are not lucky, there will be a cynic on the other end of the line, in front of whom all your sixteen years will be in full view. He will not deny himself the pleasure of watching a girl’s heart vibrate, frail partitions in the brain sway and fall, and his eyes darken. So you don’t need to think that only you have the right to use people for your own amusement. They can use you too. But what you can firmly not be afraid of are maniacs. Real maniacs don’t look for victims on the Internet. And virtual ones do not go into real life.

We need virtual sex to know that:

●     You can live without sex;

●     There are no indecent words;

●     Words are a terrible power;

●     It doesn’t matter what color your panties are;

●     Sex is difficult;

●     It is better to sleep with interesting people;

●     Every kiss changes your life;

●     Friendship is more suspicious than love;

●     Love is more suspicious of sex;

●     You can make love to ten men at the same time;

●     Some men are actually women;

●     Any reality is virtual;

●     Everyone is doing stupid things;

●     Life is sad;

●     That we have nothing to be ashamed of in general.

Why is this?

He can of course tell you that he’s finished. You will half believe: after all, you were sweet and seductive. But there will be room for doubt: how, in fact, did it happen there, when his hands are on the keyboard, eyes are in the monitor, and you don’t even know where? If you are interested, ask him about it.

At the next meeting. If you really want to know what virtual sex is, ask your cyber lover to retell you the content of your recent love games. His memories of something that actually did not exist is real virtual sex. And what you did yesterday was just an imitation of intimate relationships in real life. What happened under the table there, you will never know. Is it all the same? Much more important is what happens to you. Imagine that he asks you about it. What will you answer him?


Everything that you write on the Internet can be saved by the perfidious interlocutor in a file and made public. You, of course, can then say that it is a fake and that it was not you at the computer – they will not believe it anyway.

There are two ways to keep your hassles to a minimum. First, try to partner with someone who needs publicity even less than you do. Second, talk as little as possible about anyone other than the two of you, especially people in your real life.

Don’t cyberlove on bad phone lines and in the rain. If your connection is often broken, it is better to chat about books. After all, the only thing worse than virtual intercourse can be a sudden interrupted virtual intercourse.


In the most daring adventures on the Internet, you are insured against three things: you will not be raped, you will not get sick and you will not fly in. And even the roof of virtual sex will not move down – if, of course, it was in place before. Sooner or later, you will experience everything, listen to all sorts of words, say and cool down to the computer.

The main danger is falling in love with the electronic simulation of a handsome prince and seriously giving in to letters and spaces, believing that they belong to a real person.

Virtual Cheating Affects Real Life

We are trying to combine traditional family values ​​with new opportunities that the electronic age provides us, and sometimes we do not realize that everything is not the same as before.

 We need to get used to the fact that the information revolution leaves its mark on the way we live, think, meet, and even change. I want to talk about virtual betrayal and its consequences. How a meaningless chat can lead to tragedy.

The Cyberspace

The computer changes our life very much – it also changes how we cheat on our spouses. If earlier for a married man the establishment of personal relationships was associated with certain difficulties and requirements of conspiracy, the computer eased this problem. With its help, you can quickly get to know anyone on the planet who is present in cyberspace.

By clicking the mouse several times and writing a few lines of text, you find a new acquaintance. The wife is in the kitchen and does not realize that you are writing tenderness to a lady who can be either in a neighboring house or on the other side of the planet. And you are already completely absorbed in your new acquaintance.

The beauty of communicating with this creature is that you can exchange photos almost instantly and even start a sexually explicit conversation – cyberspace will endure everything. But cyberspace is insidious – that’s what I want to talk about today.

The Stages and Aspects of Virtual Cheating

First, you select an object. And, even if you didn’t decide to get to know you or not, this decision can be made for you – after checking your mailbox in the morning, you may not resist and enter into correspondence with the person who wrote to you first.

Then comes the stage of Internet addiction to your new acquaintance. You expect a letter from Bulgarian Escort all the time. Heartbeats faster when the mail demon is triggered – here it is!

Your spouse has no idea what is happening to you and what kind of threat is hanging over your relationship – a little more time will pass and this plastic box full of microcircuits and printed circuit boards will shatter all your relationships.

We do not think that the joy of communication in the virtual space can turn into serious disappointments in the real world – both for you and for those close to you.

But you don’t think about it yet. Your virtual cheating becomes an integral part of your life. This is where the biggest danger lies. The person with whom you communicate and who “seems to” exist, but so far he is presented in the form of photographs (cute), letters (romantic), and dreams of a bright future together. In reality, you have never met her, you do not know how she smells, how she gestures, and what the real timbre of her voice is. This is the insidiousness of cyberspace – a person can imagine himself as he wants to be. The computer is a great deceiver: as soon as you believe in all these bytes and bits, it becomes quite easy to lose your mind. A little more time passes, and you fall in love with this creature completely unfamiliar to you.

No, you are not fooling yourself – you truly believe it

But what – you are dealing with an ideal person, devoid of any flaws. The wife becomes something annoying, an outsider – in no way comparable to the angel who regularly writes to you. Online cheating, which actually happened when you first swapped your photos with a mysterious stranger, is starting to materialize.

A few more days or weeks will pass and the virtual space begins to have a direct impact on the real space.

You start to ignore your spouse more, spend less time together and swear more and more often. In the next stage – you transfer virtual communication to the real plane. The first time you call your new friend and hear her voice. Your heart skips a beat – her voice is absolutely angelic. And then you decide – “Here, at last, is the person whom I really love” – ​​you convince yourself. On the same day, you confess your love to her. Then you pack your things, explain to your wife that you no longer love her, and leave.

The Reality Waiting on the Other Side of the Channel

You come to a neighboring house or come to another city. You rush headlong towards her and immediately throw yourself into bed. Virtual betrayal has become real. You thank the Internet for allowing this to happen. But along with the joys come the first disappointments – she, say, does not have such a small belly, which you saw in the photo sent – it has grown significantly.

Then you notice that the angelic character, which seemed to you simply heavenly compared to the character of your wife, is far from the same. One day you wake up next to your Internet chosen one and realize that this is a complete stranger. You start to get annoyed with the simplest little things, those that you did not know about when you were texting – the smell, the shape of the legs, for example. You understand that you fell in love not with a real woman, but with her ideal image, which has little in common with this woman. She just presented herself as she would like to be.

Suddenly, you begin to yearn for your legal wife, with whom you have already filed for divorce, and she ceases to seem so terrible to you.

The Instant End of the Relationship

And now you are dialing your wife’s phone number. You understand that she is a wonderful person and ask her forgiveness. Swear that if she lets you return, you will never repeat what happened again. When your Bolton escorts‘ online friend comes home, you look at her as a sworn enemy – after all, it was she who ruined your whole life, spoke, persuaded, introduced herself as completely different from what she really is. Outraged by all this, you tell her everything you think about her – all heavenly relationships end in one second.

The Lightning Speed of the Beginning and the Lightning Speed of the End

Now you have one enemy. She answers rudely, now you are sure for sure – she is the worst thing that you have ever met in your life. But you can also understand her – she liked you. She was so pleased with this relationship that for her it was like a bolt from the blue. She doesn’t want you to leave and wants you to stay with her. But you realized that family is sacred, that family is the most important thing in this life. She cannot understand why – after all, it was still good, she renounces for life to meet married men – for her, you have become the most terrible manifestation of this virtual world. But you no longer care how much pain you caused her – after all, everything was so simple – clicked the mouse, clicked two – sometimes someone has to pay very seriously for the ease of online dating. She is not to blame for the fact that she had to become a victim of the dullness of your family relationships, and the ease of acquaintance allowed you and your spouse to shake up your relationship and start from a new line.

The Ease of Acquaintance May Have to Pay Dearly

At home, your wife meets you, and a day later she does not even remember what happened – after all, for her, this mistress was purely virtual – she never met her life. A few more weeks will pass and all this will be forgotten – the peculiarity of online dating is that they are perceived as something completely optional, something that can be ignored because they come easily and just as easily and go away.

And that girl will remember for a long time about the strange young man who appeared so suddenly, but just as suddenly disappeared. And who is to blame for the fact that they had a relationship in the virtual, and not in the real world. Maybe in the real world, they would never have looked at each other! We are already half living in the virtual world and for us, accustomed to the keyboard and the display, it seems that everything in life should be just as easy – clicked the mouse – a girl appeared, clicked on the cross at the top – the girl disappeared.

Now it remains to erase in memory everything that is connected with it, although here it is a little more difficult, but still not impossible. It was a collection of bytes, then materialized and returned again to some completely different reality, not connected in any way with you. And what to do – this is the specificity of our time, our era. I think that a few more years will pass and dating on the Internet will die out and our children will only meet in the real world since they will well understand that virtual dating begins easily, but can end sadly and terribly.