Having sex fantasies is completely normal. Whether we like to admit or not, we all have that scenario that pops in our head from time to time and puts us in the mood. But what happens when your relationship has been going on for a while now and you’d like to enact your fantasies with your partner? Depending on the nature of your fantasy and how you suggest it, things can go many ways. In the happiest of cases, she could say yes instantly and gladly turn your dream to reality. Or, she could decline politely and promise to do it after you get to know each other better. In the saddest cases, she could be shocked, angry and even suggest a breakup. Here are some tips on how to introduce your girlfriend to your sex fantasy and the likelihood of it happening.

 1.     Role playing

 Sure, whispering kinky words in the missionary position and doing it from behind is great, but sometimes people really want to have fun pretending to be someone else. Whether it’s a sexy librarian, a nurse, a schoolgirl or a police officer, roleplaying can spice things up in your relationship. The good part is that most women have roleplaying fantasies too, so chances are she’ll say yes. However, make sure she is comfortable with the scenario (or costume) and you don’t do it just for your pleasure. Otherwise, it will make things really uncomfortable.

 2.     Anal

 Anal sex is such a common fantasy that no girlfriend will be shocked when she hears it. Also, it is no longer a taboo and she won’t look at you like you’re a pervert, especially not if she’s done it before. Many women are comfortable with the idea, but she might still need some convincing. Make sure you two are comfortable with each other (in case there are comfort or hygiene issues) and never attempt to force her.

 3.     Making a sex tape

 This fantasy is not impossible to achieve, but you’ll have to get the timing right. This is the kind of thing that your regular girlfriend would pass on after just one month of dating, but would gladly accept once she trusts you. You can start by taking nude pics of your bodies first and reveal more and more each time.

 4.     Watching her masturbate

 This is another fantasy that’s likely to work, as long as you make it happen naturally and don’t look like a stalker. She might feel a bit weird if you ask her bluntly to let you watch, so try exercising a bit of finesse and let things happen naturally. For example, you could start by holding your hand over hers as she touches herself and then slowly move away and watch. If you notice her stop and be turned off, don’t insist.

 5.     Threesome / Mixoscopy

 The term threesome is self-explanatory and probably needs no definition, but mixoscopy is the act of getting pleasure from watching other people having sex with their knowledge. Unfortunately, both these fantasies are difficult to turn to reality because they’re borderline fetish and she won’t say yes unless she happens to like them too.