One of the most common misconceptions about female sexuality is that women rarely think about sex, have no interest in getting it on and, when they do, they prefer to stick to traditional positions, without spicing it up. But that’s not true; women think about sex as often as men do, they too have fantasies and they like trying new things, some of which might make you blush. Behind every shy girlfriend there’s wild mistress waiting to have fun, but it’s up to you to test the waters and slowly discover what dirty things she would like to try. Here are some ideas that you could suggest.

Dirty talk

It’s taboo, it’s forbidden and it’s fun. Dirty talk is a great way to start spicing things up in bed without getting straight to the extremes. You can start with a few “milder” dirty words and see how your girlfriend reacts. If she doesn’t stop or get angry, or if she answers back in the same manner, then you can use stronger words. If she doesn’t seem to be into dirty talk, you can play it safer and ask her a question like “what do you want me to do to you?” and take it from there.

Sex toys

Even the most creative, in love and passionate couple will get bored of doing it in the same positions over and over again, so sex toys are a great way to add something new. If you love the idea, but fear that your gf might get mad, don’t be so hesitant. Many women would like to try sex toys! You don’t have to buy extreme or advanced sex toys from the beginning; start with an entry-level, female friendly options such as a small rabbit vibrator and then you can move on to dildos, BDSM kits, roleplaying kits or anal beads.

Go down on her

If you haven’t gone down on her until now, what are you waiting for? Every girl wants oral sex from her boyfriend and she shouldn’t have to ask for it. Don’t be selfish, there’s something in it for you too: if you start with oral sex, things will heat up quite quickly and you’re in for some kinky things! Here’s an extra tip: blindfold her and tell her to put on headphones for an incredible experience.

Threesome

This is not something that your girlfriend might want to try at the beginning of the relationship, but if you’ve been together for a few years and you trust each other, then a threesome if the best way to take your sex life to the next level. Whether you want to try a threesome with two girls or three guys, that’s entirely up to you. However, to make things simpler and avoid awkward situations afterwards, choose your third partner carefully. You can look for someone at a swinger’s club, but, to be extra safe, you should hire a professional escort instead. They’ll be very discrete, and you’ll know for sure that they are awesome in bed.